Self-Identity and Self-Love: A Journey in Life: A Journey of Belonging, Healing, and Becoming Whole

In Self-Identity and Self-Love, Dr. D. Greg Kerkvliet shares a powerful and heartfelt exploration of what it means to belong, to heal, and to lead an authentic life. Born biracial and adopted into a loving family that did not share his heritage, Greg grew up feeling both loved and unseen. His journey moves from childhood confusion to adolescent rebellion, through parenthood, faith, and a successful corporate career.

Along the way he learns that true belonging begins with the courage to accept every part of oneself. Through deeply personal stories and practical reflection exercises, this book guides readers to confront the moments that shaped them and to find purpose in their pain.

Greg’s story reveals how family secrets, cultural expectations, and social identity can quietly shape who we become. Yet through self-awareness, forgiveness, and love, those same forces can be transformed into sources of strength.
Blending memoir, reflection, and professional insight, Self-Identity and Self-Love invites readers to pause, reflect, and rebuild their own sense of identity. It speaks to anyone who has ever felt caught between worlds or pressured to hide who they are. With compassion and wisdom, Dr. Kerkvliet shows that self-love is not an ending but a lifelong journey toward truth and wholeness.

This book is for anyone seeking to move beyond survival and step fully into their story with confidence, courage, and grace.